Help Others

HELP OTHERS

Most of the people that I work with through The Best Medicine are carers, teachers and healthcare professionals. These are the incredible people that have been assigned as keyworkers and are still going about their daily work throughout this pandemic. These people are usually not paid very well and rarely get the recognition they deserve, but they do their work regardless. My training days offer resources and practices to help these wonderful people take care of themselves. Like the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Yet it’s not just the keyworkers! We all have gifts and skills that benefit others, looking after ourselves is fundamental to sharing these gifts with the world. So first and foremost, make your wellbeing a priority, then you’ll be in a better place to help others.

My wonderful guest blogger Ellie from Kindfulmind described, on day eleven, the benefits of helping others. So I’m going to just jump straight into some ideas!

Idea

  • Make scrubs for keyworkers – If you have a sewing machine and lots of time on your hands there are loads of Facebook groups popping up to meet the demands of local care settings needing scrubs and headbands for their staff. Here’s the link to the Cornish group!
  • Adopt a granny – Volunteer to virtually visit a granny or grandad who’s living in care.
  • Sing from your window – Music unites us, so if you live in a busy street and are blessed with musical skills why not sing to your neighbours, it just might make their day!
  • Be a ‘flu friend’ – Volunteer Cornwall have been assigning vulnerable adults in the community with individuals who can help. ‘Flu friends’ are there to collect groceries and prescriptions for those who are unable to leave their homes.
  • Volunteer at your local food bank, here’s the link to the Falmouth/Penryn bank.

Can you believe this is the last day? I just wanted to say a massive thank you to everyone who has followed, read and shared these blogs. I’ve got a new project brewing so will be back soon, but in the meantime stay safe and well! Love to you all, Katie x

received_563932707499702

All blogs if not stated otherwise are written by Katie Rose White. Katie is a Laughter Facilitator, founder of The Best Medicine and advocate for mental health and wellbeing.

Self-Discipline

SELF-DISAPLINE

Years ago, a close friend of mine said to me, ‘the worst thing about going for a run is putting on your running gear, once you’re in your kit you’re halfway there’. This statement is one that has continued to resonate with me.

Where we are and where we want to be depends on the choices we have made and continue to make. Self-discipline can help us stay on track, guiding us to healthier habits.

Theory

As I mentioned on day four, this is an opportunity to ditch our non-supportive habits and create new ones; but nobody said that was going to be easy!

‘Somewhere we forget that we had to learn to walk…we forgot how many times we fell. We forget that things take practice.’

Deborah Adele

Self-discipline is the conscious choice to do something for yourself now, in order to improve your experience later. It takes effort to be self-disciplined, and it means choosing a temporary discomfort over a more pleasurable or easier option.

In the last few years, I have developed a morning routine, where I get up, feed the cat and sit and meditate for 20 minutes. This practice has kept my mental health in good shape, it’s become a lifeline, a steady unwavering constant which has helped me both personally and professionally.

However, some days I just don’t want to, some days I want to stay in bed or skip to breakfast. My self-discipline at times has been questionable. I can make a million excuses not to meditate. It can feel like a burden, an annoying pointless thing, a waste of time. Yet it is usually these days when I get the most out of sitting. The days when I am feeling resistant, uncomfortable or irritated. It is these days where I can find solace in my practice, where I can harness what I have learnt and sit with my discomfort.

“Can you show courage and stay in the fire until you find the blessing?” – C.L

Self-discipline can teach us to not run from our discomfort, but to foster our inner strength and natural resilience.

Over the last 20 days I have listed many ideas and practices that you can use to improve your wellbeing. However, self-care is ultimately up to you. It is up to you to choose the practices that work for you and stay motivated enough to keep going. Self-discipline teaches us to keep choosing those good things even when life feels hard.

Ideas

  • Don’t take on too much – It takes roughly 66 days of practicing something new for it to become a habit. Try not to overload yourself with new things, implement one practice at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day.
  • Start your day as often as you need too. If you’ve had a bad morning, restart your day at 1pm. If you feel like writing the day off, instead choose to restart it at 3pm, 7pm, or even 10pm. The time is now.
  • Give yourself a deadline – Me and my friend have decided to give each other a list of things we’d like to do at the beginning of each week. Having each other to answer to is a way of staying focused and motivated. If I’m being flakey, she’ll be the one keeping me on track!
  • Set your intention the night before – If you want to establish a new morning practice, set your intention the night before that way you can’t keep changing the goal posts

Connect to Nature

NATURE

I am sitting by an open window on a sunny afternoon in early April. There is a huge beech tree in view, and I can see that the leaf buds on it are starting to swell. There’s a great tit singing nearby, and the ever-present herring gulls are perched on several rooftops.

My job often brings me into contact with people who don’t seem to have much of a connection to nature. On outings I often find that many individuals overlook much of what there is to see. Indeed, they only seem to see the most basic components. However, if I point out just one or two interesting things their experience can be transformed. Drawing attention to an animal track or an edible wild plant for instance can make all the difference. What this does is it enriches their experience and connects them with their surroundings.

I want to say here that I believe that we are part of nature, but that doesn’t mean we can’t be disconnected from the rest of it. I haven’t always felt a deep connection to nature myself. I remember being largely uninterested in nature as a child. My connection developed simply by spending time in nature. My personal experiences of the natural world as a teenager awoke in me a desire to know more about it, and so I decided to study it.

Nature is exceptional and extraordinary, but it doesn’t have to be beyond our everyday experience. I am incredibly fortunate to be surrounded by nature every day. Looking back to my childhood, I can see that I was disconnected from nature because I was completely immersed in the human-made world.

The human-centred world of today offers constant stimulation at a fast-pace that is not in tune with nature’s rhythm. In this technological age many find themselves incredibly busy, rushing around from one thing to the next. This way of living has become normal, but scientific research suggests that it can contribute to a catalogue of mental health disorders. In my opinion, re-establishing a connection to nature has never been more important.

Nature is good for our health, wellbeing and happiness. Research shows that it even promotes prosocial behaviour. Most of us will readily accept these statements as fact, but perhaps fewer will understand why nature is good for us.

In his work Biophilia the American biologist Edward O Wilson suggests that humans possess an innate tendency to seek connections with nature. He proposes that this tendency of humans to focus on and to feel a connection to nature and other lifeforms has, in part, a genetic basis. The fact is we evolved as an intrinsic part of nature as hunter-gatherers. We lived like this for 50,000 generations. Since the advent of agriculture and what we call civilisation there have been 500 generations. Essentially, we are still hard-wired for living alongside the rest of nature.

Such an evolutionary explanation provides a compelling argument for the need of a connection to nature. Research shows that being in a natural environment has a calming effect and activates the parasympathetic nervous system which is associated with feeling contented. Whereas the urban environment stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, which is associated with drive and threat.

If allowed to, nature will help to quieten your mind and relax your body. You may well feel a connection to the life around you.

Ideas

I invite you to connect with nature today. All it takes is a little bit of time and willingness to engage with life outside of yourself. Below are a few simple ideas to help you get connected. If possible, get outside and visit a place where nature flourishes.

  • Take note of at least 10 natural things you notice on your walk (or chair if practicing from home). This can be anything from noticing a birdsong to the way light is reflected off water. This exercise helps to increase observational awareness and can lead to a greater appreciation of nature.
  • Visit a woodland (or sit beneath a tree near home). The concept of forest bathing originated in Japan, where it is called shinrin-yoku, and it is a cornerstone of modern Japanese healthcare. In its most basic form, forest bathing simply involves immersing yourself in a forest setting. It draws on the therapeutic powers of nature and helps to connect people with the natural environment. Research shows that forest bathing helps reduce stress and encourages a sense of wellbeing.
  • Buy yourself a hand-lens (x10 magnification) and look at a wildflower through it. It’s another world.
  • Use as many of your senses as possible. The world is a richer place when we use all our senses. The scent of a rose, the feeling of grass underfoot, the sound of running water, the taste of a freshly picked fruit, the sight of the milky way. Connect with nature through your senses. It will nourish you in a way nothing else can.

‘And I have felt

A presence that disturbs me with the joy

Of elevated thoughts; a sense sublime

Of something far more deeply interfused,

Whose dwelling is the light of setting suns,

And the round ocean and the living air,

And the blue sky, and in the mind of man;

A motion and a spirit, that impels

All thinking things, all objects of all thought,

And rolls through all things.’

by William Wordsworth.

thumbnail_Dylan and me at Scrabo Dec 2019 (2)

Written by Noah Hall. Noah is the Land Manager at Bosence Community Farm, a clinical detoxification and rehabilitation centre for people living with addiction.

Share

SHARE

“My soul tells me, we were
all broken from the same nameless
heart, and every living thing
wakes with a piece of that original
heart aching its way into blossom.
This is why we know each other
below our strangeness, why when
we fall, we lift each other, or when
in pain, we hold each other, why
when sudden with joy, we dance
together. Life is the many pieces
of that great heart loving itself
back together.”

Mark Nepo

The collective suffering from COVID19 feels heavy. Many of us have never experienced such an event in our lifetime. It’s new and unknown and there’s so much fear attached to it. The shear weight of the repercussions of this outbreak have been felt by millions of people across the globe. Yet, although there is difficulty and suffering, I believe there is strength to be found in our unity.

There is no denying that we’re in this together, that this experience is shared. We know that this will change our lives and shape our community forever, but I also believe it will make way for more compassion, kindness and connection.

In the last few weeks, we have collectively experienced a rollercoaster of emotions from anger to acceptance, grief to gratitude. Learning to be compassionate towards ourselves is crucial. Harnessing self-compassion means not beating ourselves up over small mistakes, being kind to ourselves and giving ourselves what we need throughout the day, however luxurious this may feel.

It is also important that we allow ourselves to be held, supported and comforted by those around us. Expressing and sharing our vulnerabilities fully and asking for help when we need it. Kindness and compassion will help us weather this storm.

28417463

From The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse

Ideas

  • Try a loving kindness meditation. Send intentions of love and support to yourself, your neighbour, your community, your country, all of humanity.
  • Cheer for the healthcare workers – Applaud your healthcare system from your back door, window or garden. If you’re here in the UK that’s every Thursday night at 8pm.
  • Cultivate self-compassion – learn how to quieten your inner critic and be kinder to yourself.

Slow Down

SLOW

Today I’m taking my own advice and slowing down! So, I’m going to make this short.

Now’s the time to be gentle with yourself, to give yourself permission for rest and reflection. To allow yourself space to recalibrate and find your own inner strength. To nourish yourself in all the ways you know and trust the process.

Inspiration

‘Balance comes from listening to the guidance and wisdom of the inner voice’ (Deborah Adele 2009)

‘In order to develop our mind, we must look at a deeper level. Everyone seeks happiness, joyfulness, but from outside – from money, from power, from big car, from big house. Most people never pay much attention to the ultimate source of a happy life, which is inside, not outside.’ (Dalai Lama 2016)

‘If you are critical with yourself, others will feel your high expectations of themselves as well. If you are light-hearted and forgiving with yourself, others will feel the ease and joy of being with you. If you find laughter and delight in yourself, others will be healed in your presence.’  (Deborah Adele 2009)

‘Create some time for yourself and things will gradually become clear…The free of spirit have stopped trying and instead let things happen.’ (Tom Hodgkinson 2006)

Play

play

I’m a member of a very silly club. Before the pandemic we would meet each week in a field. Bring props like ladders or lemons and create a Freestyle Game. A Freestyle Game is a game that has never been played before and will never be played again. Each game is created in the moment by the group, given a name, played once or twice (with room for adaption and fine tuning) and never played again.

I’ve hopped blindfolded across the field singing ‘staying alive’ whilst racing my fellow freestyle members, I’ve been rugby tackled to the ground whilst protecting a patch of clover, I’ve lobbed scented candles, made fairy sized bouquets from hedgerow, worn a horse head whilst standing between the goal posts…oh and the handshake…yes there’s a handshake!!

Freestyle Games is utterly ridiculous, but I absolutely love it! I love the absurd, imaginative, spontaneous moments that arise in the act of playing. There is so much to learn from being silly and so much joy to be had!

So why do us adults stop playing like children? And what can we do to revive our playful nature?

Theory

When we become grownups the opportunity for spontaneous play becomes limited. Playing becomes structured and formalised; we are confined to what society has deemed acceptable only expressing our playful state within these limited realms. We play team sports, go shopping, go out drinking, take up wacky hobbies or enjoy a fruity sex life. The way we play also becomes limited by the roles with give ourselves or are given to us by others. For example, it is more acceptable to be playful if our job is as an entertainer, playworker or teacher than if we’re a banker, manager or surgeon. Yet playing is a very primal, innate skill with a purpose for its existence.

‘Of all the animal species, humans are the biggest players of all. We are built to play, and built through play.’ (Brown 2010)

What sets us apart from other mammals is we extend our juvenile period out longer than any other creature. Our children have roughly 15 years to play, and there’s reason for this! Play helps us to test our boundaries, to learn what’s safe and what’s dangerous. Play lets us learn through trial and error, allowing us to test out ideas and act out roles without any attachment to the outcome. Play helps our children develop and grow in a safe and protected environment, so that when they reach a certain age, they are able to make healthy decisions and ultimately stay alive!

Playing is critical to learning in the early stages of life, but it also continues to enhance our learning into adulthood. Play boosts creativity, confidence and joy. It helps us to see limitless possibilities and go beyond our comfort zone.

‘…new discoveries and new learning come when one is open to serendipity, when one welcomes novelties and anomalies’ (Brown 2010)

Cultivating a playful spirit can help you to be more flexible when faced with challenges or uncertainty. It can bring more laughter into your days and connection with those you love.

Ideas

  • Put your bins out in your ball gown
  • Challenge your family to a synchronised dance
  • Have a whole conversation with someone in gibberish
  • Organise a games night, dig out some board games or download the houseparty app to play games online with friends.
  • Do a task backwards. Make your sandwich back to front and the wrong way around, put your trousers on upside down, rethink your habits, flirt with the nonsensical!
  • Lip sync to your favourite song
  • Conduct a serious conference call as a potato

Notice

NOTICE

When I feel stressed, I start biting my nails. This has become a habit which I have maintained for over 20 years now. Although I’m not particularly proud of this coping strategy, it has served to be quite useful in helping me notice when I’m feeling stressed. Biting my nails has become a warning sign; being able to notice this sign helps me to take relevant action to reduce my stress levels.

Theory

We all experience warning signs of stress; it could be insomnia, tension around the shoulders, headaches, mood swings, a change in eating habits, fatigue, brain fog, feeling despondent, being unable to make decisions, heart palpitations and the list goes on. Some of these warning signs are symptoms of stress, some are negative coping strategies  that we may have acquired to deal with the stress.  Noticing these warning signs is the first step in helping to manage them.

Us humans have the tendency to be reactive to stress, adding fuel to the fire instead of dealing with it when it arises.  Tolle describes this well in his observation of two ducks fighting…

‘…after two ducks get into a fight…they will separate and float off in opposite directions. Then each duck will flap its wings vigorously a few times, thus releasing the surplus energy that built up during the fight. After they flap their wings, they float on peacefully, as if nothing had ever happened.

If the duck had a human mind, it would keep the fight alive by thinking… “I don’t believe what he just did…He thinks he owns this pond…I’ll never trust him again…I’ll teach him a lesson he won’t forget.”’

(Tolle 2019)

The human mind likes to create stories, which keep the negative emotions alive. Negative emotions generate negative thoughts which in turn generates more negative emotions and the cycle begins.

The lesson is to be more like ducks! When a thought, feeling or situation arises that generates a strong negative emotion and activates our stress response. Instead of being reactive and allowing our stories to blow the situation out of proportion, can we be responsive?

By ‘responsive’ I mean noticing the warning signs of the stress and tension in our body and taking action to relieve it. Flapping our hypothetical wings! When we are able to pause and take action we can begin to cultivate positive coping strategies, that, with practice, can become a healthier default setting.

Ideas

In the last 2 weeks me and my guest bloggers have suggested many ways to help to notice stress and take action. Here’ three steps to remember…

Step one: Pause

The very first thing to do is pause, to stop what you’re doing and check in. I spoke about ways to do this on Day Seven Accept.

Step Two: Breathe

Take 3 deep breathes in and out, feeling your feet on the ground, you’re bum on the seat, the gentle rise and fall of your chest and belly. For more extensive instructions and resources read Day One Breathe.

Step Three: Take Action

This is where we flap our wings! Exercise is a great way of relieving tension in the body. Laughter can help you bounce back and gain perspective. Mindful listening can help relax your mind and bring you back to your body. Asking for help is also a good way to take action, if the stress feels too heavy or unmanageable.

You know what makes you feel good. If that’s dancing, singing, baking, petting your dog, creating go do that! The action doesn’t need to be complicated, as long as it makes you feel good and it’s not at the detriment of yourself or others, then I say go for it!

Exercise

bm2

‘If you are willing to move, your muscles will give you hope. Your brain will orchestrate pleasure. And your entire physiology will adjust to help you find the energy, purpose, and courage you need to keep going.’ – Kelly McGonigal

We all know that exercise is good for us. Not only does it keep our bodies fit and healthy; but it helps our mental health profoundly too. What better time to explore new (or old) forms of movement that make us feel better? There are so many ways that we can do this, without sticking to prescribed forms of movement – find what feels good for YOUR body. I have found that on the days where I have been more active physically, my anxious mind becomes quieter and my nervous system more relaxed.

Theory

We live in a society that seems increasingly drawn to the belief that comfort makes us happier. Convenience food, online shopping and technology are all party to this system. Why do we think that ease is the answer? Many of us spend our days sitting at a desk, leading stressful, yet sedentary lives and feeling worse for it. Humans are simply not designed to sit still all day; we are designed for movement.

Our physical bodies have evolved to keep us alive as hunter-gatherers, and our brains have evolved alongside to support and reward sustained effort. While this is no longer our reality today, we can still use this knowledge to enhance our wellbeing. Essentially, it is important to remember that we are wired to feel good when we move our bodies!

Regular exercise has an impact on the chemicals that our brain produces. Over time, the physical structure of the brain can be changed through exercise, becoming more receptive to joy and more resilient to stress and anxiety. While the ‘runners high’ is commonly talked about, the positive and euphoric rewards of exercise apply no matter what form of movement we chose, providing there’s a little challenge. In fact, it is better to undertake something that needs effort, yet can be endured for a longer time.

No matter what our current abilities may be, there is always a way of moving our bodies a little more, boosting the natural remedies we have inbuilt.

Ideas

  • MORNING / The best time of day to exercise is when you wake. At this time, our bodies have the most cortisol present (a stress hormone) and therefore, sweating it out when you first get up, sets you up for a better day.
  • MUSIC / If you’re struggling with motivation; try putting on a playlist of your favourite songs and let that inspire you to move in any way that comes naturally. This could be dancing, stretching, running, yoga or whatever you feel inspired to do: no rules!
  • PLAY / What did you love to do as a child? Try not to think about exercise for the sake of fitness, but become curious about how you enjoy moving. Be playful and creative!
  • NATURE/ Get outside if you can. This might mean a local walk, yoga on your patio or time spent in the garden. Nature can be both a healing and an inspiring environment. Use whatever motivates you.
  • BE PRODUCTIVE / Maybe you don’t find normal exercise routines are for you; you like to keep productive, and you would rather be doing something useful which naturally keeps you active. Some suggestions – gardening, foraging, DIY in your home.
  • GOALS / Having something to work towards will help with motivation. It doesn’t matter the scale of what you want to achieve; just knowing why you’re making that regular commitment should keep you moving. For example, setting a weekly mileage goal or a distance to build up to if running, walking or cycling. Or perhaps envisioning something you would like to create in your garden or your home. Goals are important, but at the same time, don’t beat yourself up if you miss a day – listen to your body and do what feels good. Come back to it the next day and start again.
  • CONNECT / One of the benefits of exercise is connection with others. Of course, this is slightly more challenging (physically) in our current situation. But there are so many offerings online to keep us connected. Find a live streamed yoga / exercise / dance class near you – one that you can then join physically when things return to normal! When we take part in synchronised activities with a group, it helps us to form stronger bonds with those sharing that safe space.

Resources

Books

  • The Joy of Movement , Kelly McGonigal – I first heard Kelly talking on The Rich Roll Podcast. and as a result purchased this book, which talks further about ‘how exercise helps us find  happiness, hope, connection, and courage’. She is a teacher and lover of yoga, dance and exercise classes and is also a scientific researcher. She has written other books including ‘The Willpower Instinct.’
  • Born to Run, Christopher McDougal– a classic book about running for the joy of it, an exploration of an old running tribe who run barefoot – interesting to the non-runner too!
  • Eat and Run, Scott Jurek – Scott is an ultra-distance runner who documents his inspiring journey to becoming a ultra-champion. His first book is humble and infused with recipes to give you an insight into how his plant-based diet has allowed him to thrive as an athlete.

Podcasts

Online / Other

  • Yoga with Adriene– Free Yoga videos on YouTube
  • Many local Yoga studios are currently running live-streamed yoga sessions, so you can join in, all be it virtually, with a group. Look out for a local teacher who you can support.
  • Using Apps to connect with others and share your goals and achievements can be useful. An example would be Strava – used to record activities such as running, cycling, swimming etc.

‘It’s important that we don’t make movement an optional extra – something separate, that we can decide not to do on the days we feel too busy. It’s about weaving movement into every aspect of our lives.’

Sharon Blackie, The Enchanted Life

67801694_2638029006221457_5929841013764915200_o

Rebecca Mayes is an Ultra Marathon runner, Yoga Instructor and Artist. Check out her Instagram and Facebook pages for more of her musings.

 

 

Learn

LEARN

One of the best things about having so much time is I’ve managed to pick up books that have been on my shelves for years and actually start reading them! It feels good to sit and learn more about the subjects I’m interested in, and inevitably this feeds into my ideas and creative work.

Learning doesn’t have to feel heavy, just start with what’s already on your bookshelf!

Theory

Learning isn’t just for children, taking up a new skill as an adult has the capacity to greatly improve your mental health and wellbeing. The challenge that comes with learning something new is what helps us to reach a sense of achievement. When we commit to obtaining new knowledge and step beyond what we already know, we can gain a better insight into ourselves.

One of the foundations of learning is breaking down large goals by creating achievable and bitesize tasks. This format works well, because when we accomplish a small task our brain releases dopamine. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter associated with reward or pleasure. So each time we are able to tick something of our list, finish an essay or pass a test, our brain gives us a kick of dopamine which makes us feel great! When we feel the effects of dopamine, we are eager to repeat the actions that resulted in the initial success. This helps us to become more motivated to achieve our goal.

Learning boosts our self-confidence and improves our self-esteem, it helps to broaden our minds to new possibilities, enriching our experience of being alive.

Resources

Open University – Open University has hundreds of free online courses available!

Oxford Home Study – Here’s a few more free courses from Oxford Home Study

Learn how to Sign – Natasha Lamb and her sister Kelly-Ann are offering free YouTube classes in British sign language, I’ve just done lesson one and I’m already hooked!

Cooking Lessons from the BBC – If you’re not confident in the kitchen this resource is great and completely free!

Apps

PlantNet – Is a free plant identification app, literally take a photograph of the plant you’re unsure of and it will identify it for you in seconds! I now know all the real names of my houseplants!

Duolingo – A free language learning app. Take your pick of 94 different languages, and get started today!

Ted Talks – If you haven’t already got addicted to Ted Talks now’s the time! Listen to hundreds of talks from inspiring leaders, inventors, artists, scientists, activists, environmentalists, you name it it’s there!

Be Kind

KIND

‘No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted’

  Aesop

 We have all witnessed or heard stories of acts of kindness over the past few weeks. In this difficult time, friends and neighbours are coming out to help support the vulnerable, elderly and isolated members of their community. Kindness is a general term that means being friendly, helpful and generous towards others.

Theory

  • We are actually all hardwired to be kind – there’s growing evidence that compassion and kindness were essential to our survival as a species. Charles Darwin’s theory of evolution noted that the communities that were most kind and sympathetic to one another flourished the best and raised the most children.
  • When people help unrelated others in acts of kindness, neurons in the reward and pleasure centres of the brain are firing away – it’s like nature’s way of saying, ‘this feels good, do it again!’
  • Kindness stimulates the production of serotonin, this has all sorts of benefits from healing, to calming and making us feel happy.
  • Endorphins are increased which are the brains natural pain killer
  • Oxytocin (the love hormone), is also released and promotes social bonding, calming, and encourages trust and generosity, as well as strengthening the immune system.
  • Kindness is the ultimate health kick, it not only relieves stress but can also slow down the ageing process!
  • Kindness is also contagious – we are more likely to be kind if we have witnessed others being kind, and even just witnessing acts of kindness still gives us all of the great health benefits!

Ideas

  • Studies have shown that we actually get more happiness from spending money on others rather than ourselves. Is there something a friend, partner or parent could really do with right now? In the current situation it would have to be online shopping – maybe there’s a product out there that could help someone? Or maybe they just need a hug or a word of encouragement at this difficult time.
  • Kindness doesn’t always have to be about other people. Have you thought about doing something for yourself lately? Perhaps some self care or practicing a mediation? A loving kindness meditation is a nice one to try, this helps us to connect with the feeling of kindness towards ourselves before extending this kindness out to others.
  • Is there a Random Act of Kindness you could do right now? You may be stuck at home with your family, and it’s not your usual situation, so what can you do to make someone’s day a little easier? Offer to make a drink or lunch? Give a compliment. Run your partner a relaxing bath. Or even make sure they have some alone time! (very important when we’re all being asked to stay at home together)
  • Children at home – maybe you could make some gifts/cards or do some baking (with the help of a parent) to treat the others in your household.
  • A family kindness jar is always a nice idea – fill your jar up with notes of kindness towards one another and take it in turns to read out, or to do the kind act.

‘Be kind whenever it is possible. It is always possible.’

Online resources

Random Acts of Kindness  – Loads of kindness ideas on this website, and even includes an online forum.

KindnessUK  – Up to date articles on kindness, and lots of resources for children including kindness poems.

52 Lives  – 52 Lives aims to change someone’s life every week of the year. It is based on the simple premise that people are good, and lots of good people working together can achieve amazing things.

Artsycraftsymom – This one’s for the kids – some kindness craft ideas to do while they’re off school.

Books

Loving kindness ‘The revolutionary art of happiness’ – Sharon Salsberg

Kindness ‘The little things that matter most’ – Jamie Thurston

Kindfulness ‘be a true friend to yourself with mindful self-compassion’ – Padraig O’Morain

Self-compassion ‘stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind’ – Kristen Neff

Guest blog by Ellie Fass-Roads.

thumbnail_Outlook-fsatan5w

Ellie is the founder of Kindfulmind. She teaches mindfulness, using the principles of kindness and compassion, to children, families and adults in and around Bristol.